Family memories to treasure

Family memories to treasure

Back in March we were sent to Lanzarote for the weekend to take part in a photo shoot for an Airbnb campaign. It was a whirlwind break and was packed full of moments I am sure we will never forget. One of the days we worked from morning until early evening travelling across the island to get the required shots. It was surreal at times as despite being part of a couple of other marketing campaigns, this was our first outside of a studio/home. We are always truly grateful for any opportunity our…continue reading →
Which of you does he prefer?

Which of you does he prefer?

So which of you does he prefer? Odd question for a friend or family member to ask, it could possibly be a question I wasn't fussed about if it was reworded slightly and asked by my bff. But even then I would be a bit what the?! But imagine being asked that by a medical professional and not one but two, on two separate occasions. Not the exact wording twice, but very similar. Throw in a "so which of you is his mum?" and you have a set of questions guaranteed to put…continue reading →
She’s always a woman to me

She’s always a woman to me

Tomorrow Clara and I will have been married 6 years. For the last month my Timehop has been excitedly reminding me of all the prep running up to our wedding and sharing with me the what we were up to before our anniversary. I am confident in saying that this anniversary is one I have been looking forward to most, because it feels like one of our happiest. We've not found marriage as smooth as some. We haven't been living a fairy-tale of blissful days smiling and gazing lovingly at each other. We've…continue reading →
LGBT families not recognised

LGBT families not recognised

I told myself I wouldn't write this post until I was calm and had finished ranting to whomever would listen. Since M started school we've had a few events occur that have caused me to express my frustration in how times aren't changing as quickly as they should. I feel the LGBT community has come so far in so many ways in my lifetime yet things still fall at the first hurdle in some areas. My son is my world, he is our everything and we are raising him to be a loving,…continue reading →
Explaining what gay means

Explaining what gay means

Our little dude is now at that age where everything needs explaining no matter where we are or when the question arises. We've discussed what Tyrannosauruses┬álike to eat over breakfast, had conversations about why I will never be growing a willy whilst in a public toilet and have started to explore explaining what gay means. In M's world having two mums is just the norm, in fact it's such a none issue at the moment that he gets dismissive when we start to discuss how much he likes having mums and about his…continue reading →
Becoming a lesbian

Becoming a lesbian

Last night Clara and I watched the film 'But I'm a Cheerleader', one of my favourite films. It's a film I discovered just after I came out as a lesbian and one that certainly ignited my love for Clea DuVall and Natasha Lyonne. The film follows the story of Megan (a cheerleader) a High schooler whom is involved in a staged intervention as they assume she is a lesbian, by her family and friends, before being shipped of to a Gay conversion establishment (True Directions). The film is a comedy, does not take…continue reading →
Why you shouldn’t stay quiet about homophobia

Why you shouldn’t stay quiet about homophobia

I can almost guarantee you've been witness to homophobia. You may not have noticed it at the time, you may not have realised what was said was homophobic and you may have even chuckled at what was said, despite being adamant you are not homophobic. But sadly, in 2016 homophobia is still happening in all social circles, across social media, down the pub, in clubs, in schools and even on our TV screens. A flippant comment by a school child telling a boy to "stop being gay" when he doesn't want to leap…continue reading →
Taking our son to Brighton Pride 2016

Taking our son to Brighton Pride 2016

Clara and I have many fond memories of attending Brighton Pride over the years before we met and at the start of our relationship. One of our most memorable moments at Brighton Pride took place 8 years ago, when we got engaged on the beach next to the pier. We sat on the pebbles watching the sunset as Clara asked me to marry her and as they say, the rest is history. This year we decided that our little man was old enough to understand and ask questions about some of the things…continue reading →
How to be a great LGBT ally

How to be a great LGBT ally

I am a big believer in progressive changes within the LGBT community being not just the responsibility of those who identify as LGBT but of everyone that considers themselves to have a political opinion. We are all aware that the more voices that make themselves heard equals a better result than sitting back and letting a minority shout on its own. The other day I tweeted my feelings about how everyone can get involved in the conversation. You do not have to be part of the #LGBT community to help remove hate from…continue reading →
A place of safety

A place of safety

The other night whilst up with jet lag, scrolling through Twitter I read something which made my blood run cold. There had been a shooting, a mass shooting in a Gay Club in Orlando, which had left 49 people dead and over 50 severely injured. Media outlets were throwing ideas around about who was responsible and why, and stories of heroes and those who lost their lives started to fill my timeline. My eyes filled with tears as I thought about all those people enjoying their night out, preparing to leave the club,…continue reading →