She’s not my girlfriend

She’s not my girlfriend

This week I had surgery, it was successful I was well looked after and am incredibly thankful for the NHS and all their staff. I also had a few encounters with a lovely lady which got me thinking about the importance of titles. Not titles we use for ourselves, but those we use for others. Girlfriend, fiancée, partner, civil partner, wife, spouse are all titles people have used when discussing Clara with me. To both Clara and I the transition of titles in our relationship have been quite important to us. In fact…continue reading →
Homophobia must be stopped

Homophobia must be stopped

Last night, as we were sitting in bed, some close personal friends of ours messaged asking if we were watching Celebrity Big Brother as it was a bit of cheesy television they loved to watch. We haven't been big fans of the show since it left Channel 4 if I'm completely honest, so we chose not to turn it on, and thank goodness we didn't. 5 or 10 minutes later, we receive another message, telling us not to watch and how disgusted they were by what they had just witnessed. Upon entrance to…continue reading →
Nobody stared

Nobody stared

Last week it was M's preschool Christmas performance. We've been listening to his beautiful voice practicing Christmas songs for the last two months and were looking forward to seeing his little face up on stage among his peers. As the day approached I started to think about this being the first event where Clara and I would be presenting as his parents, in unison. The room would be packed with mums and dads, grandparents, aunties and uncles and M's Mama and Mummy.  Our attendance was just something we took for granted, as his parents…continue reading →
“Where’s your Dad?”

“Where’s your Dad?”

It was inevitable that the Dad question would come up at some point. Now that M is at pre-school he is making friends at a lightning speed. We were a little concerned with his ability to form friendships at his old pre-school, but all these fears have disappeared as his key worker assured us he's a popular little lad and friendly with everyone. Over the last 6 weeks I've noticed him come out of his shell whilst we stood at the gates waiting to go in. He moved from watching children play to…continue reading →
National Coming Out Day – Lesbemums

National Coming Out Day – Lesbemums

Today is National Coming Out Day. Clara and I both feel this day is quite an important day and have both shared our coming out days over the years. You can read Clara's here and Mine here. So we wanted to hear from someone else we respect in the LGBT community and asked K from Lesbemums to share her story.   For a member of the LGBT community, coming out isn't just restricted to the day you come out to your family and friends, coworkers or class mates. Every day can be a…continue reading →
He’s doing fine

He’s doing fine

Three years have passed and I can confirm our little man is doing fine. If I had a pound for every time I've seen a tweet, comment on a news site or a throwaway remark heard in public, about same sex parents and their apparent inability to raise children without breaking them, I would have enough money to.... well I just know I'd have more money than I have right now, because to be honest I don't keep track of the comments. I won't lie, before M came along the comments were hurtful.…continue reading →
LGBTQ Families to follow on Instagram

LGBTQ Families to follow on Instagram

Being part of the LGBTQ family community on Instagram, we love to find new accounts to follow that allow us to see how families of all shapes and sizes from all over the world, choose to share their lives. M is at that age now where he loves to look at photos of other children who share a similar family makeup to him, be it two daddies or two mummies, he's quite keen to see how other children live. We thought we'd put together a list of LGBTQ families we love to follow…continue reading →
You’re not my role model

You’re not my role model

This week the news has been alive with the buzz about the very stunning Caitlyn Jenner. I've seen folk on social media who've never been aware of the transgender community, discussing how beautiful she is, likening her to the gorgeous Jessica Lange and actively discussing topics to increase their understanding. This is fantastic, this is something we need in the world and it makes me happy to see. But with everything that happens in the world, where there is positivity, negativity doesn't stray too far. I started to become aware of a few articles…continue reading →
Every day a coming out

Every day a coming out

If you're a regular reader, you will probably be aware that C and I recently moved to a new house. We moved into a lovely quiet little road with well kept gardens and neighbours that keep themselves to themselves. We haven't really encountered anyone since we moved, apart from the odd smile and greeting during the day. A month in our new home and now we are gradually getting to meet the neighbours, thanks to regular parcel deliveries arriving whilst we are working. Thankfully we have moved to a friendly road with a…continue reading →
Gay Mum

Gay Mum

As you can imagine, we get asked a lot of questions about our life and living as a same sex couple and we are more than happy to answer most questions. We usually have an answer straight away, and most of these questions are quite straight forward like - 'How did you know you were gay?' 'How did you decide who would carry your son?' And 'How did you conceive Monkey?' Etc etc. . . I could go on for a very long time. However the other week someone asked me a question…continue reading →