Love is….

Love is….

Today is a day that despite being madly in love, becomes more like a regular day to us each year. Don't get me wrong, I like to think I am super romantic, but I also like to think I show it all year round and not just on the day the shops want us to. We've bought each other a card and told each other not to buy a gift, even though we've both casually presented each other with a token of our love. Clara was grateful for her favourite chocolates, whilst I…continue reading →
My soulmate is now my wife

My soulmate is now my wife

The first family member I came out to was my mum. It all began with a conversation with about marriage as my sister was preparing to walk down the ailse. I was expressing how much I disliked marriage and my mum started to question why. It was then I told her that I was gay and wasn't allowed to marry, which really upset me. Flash forward many years and the law has changed enough to allow me to marry my soulmate as long as it's a civil partnership (so I wasn't technically married).…continue reading →
Marrying the second time

Marrying the second time

If you follow us on Twitter you more than likely will be aware that Clara and I are converting our Civil Partnership to a Marriage on the 20th December.   When we first discovered the new same sex marriage law had been passed, we shared our joy on Twitter. We then started to receive questions about why it's so important and what's the difference.     To be honest I was aware a few of the differences but felt ignorant to some of them. So I did what I enjoy doing most, I educated myself on…continue reading →
You should just BE. . .

You should just BE. . .

I've been asked numerous times in the past why I felt the need to come out. I never really knew how to answer the question and whenever I did, they would always respond with 'You should just BE. . .' but we all know that's not the reality. I really wish it was. In truth, there is still a lot of work to be done. There are still countries which have laws against homosexuality, some with the death penalty. When my wife and I decide where we want to travel to in the…continue reading →
Coming out again – National Coming Out Day 2014

Coming out again – National Coming Out Day 2014

Saturday the 11th October 2014 is National Coming Out Day. We are huge supporters of National Coming Out Day and filmed a vlog last year sharing our coming out stories. What I notice each year is how more and more people question the need for such a day. Questions I encountered came from all types of people either curious to the motives behind the need to set yourself apart from the "social norm" or based on frustrations at the noninclusive countries that create such a need to express a positivity in homosexuality. I'm…continue reading →
Is it really necessary

Is it really necessary

You know what really bugs me? Naked men. No, not just naked men but naked men in advertising. If an advertising campaign used a half naked woman with her breasts out, they would be seen as sexist and promoting soft porn. You can also bet that the woman involved would get verbally attacked for taking part. So why is ok for men? I just don't get it. Yes I am a lesbian, and yes, I don't find it attractive or luring, but I wouldn't find it appealing if it was a woman, that's…continue reading →
Homophobia – Not just for straight people

Homophobia – Not just for straight people

"Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT)." - Wikipedia I would be hard pushed to find someone who has never heard someone make a homophobic remark or read about some form of homophobic hate crime. But I imagine I could find someone who didn't know that homophobia doesn't just come from straight people. I'm not just talking about the misuse of words like Gay or queer within the LGBT community, I mean general prejudice…continue reading →
Lesbian and Gay must see movies

Lesbian and Gay must see movies

Last night C and I got talking about lesbian and gay must see movies after we took a Buzzfeed Lesbian themed movie quiz. I've managed to watch 23 of the lesbian films on the list and C has watched only 9. We both decided to make it our mission to watch the rest of the films on the list, no matter how awful some of them may be. Since we've been together we've managed to accumulate quite a collection of lesbian and gay themed films and television series. I think I spent most…continue reading →
A gloriously happy day

A gloriously happy day

Today same same sex marriage is legal. I feel so proud to be an openly gay woman on this day. I know this year I will be able to officially marry my wife and I can't wait. I love her with every fibre of my being, she is my soul mate. I could not live without her. Yesterday I wrote a post for Mumsnet about same sex marriage and how I feel about my civil partnership. I wrote that our wedding day will always be the day I married my wife, it was…continue reading →
Two women in love

Two women in love

When I was asked to be part of the Me and You photography project, I felt it would be a great opportunity to share more about C and I as two women in love and not just as M's Mummy and Mama. We love our roles as parents, but we both feel it's important to remember why we fell in love with each other. Last month I shared my fear of holding C's hand, at one point in our relationship, which got me thinking about our relationship before M. The many nights we…continue reading →