Extreme Stealth Required

Whilst I write this I’m lying very still with the brightness turned right down on my phone.

Each move I make is made with extreme stealth, to the point where I’m starting to imagine I’m in a film where any exaggerated movement will set off an incredibly loud alarm.

I can hear two people I love taking long deep sleeping breaths as I lay next to them. Little feet occasionally tap me in the back, to remind me who controls the space in our bed.

It’s been 17 months since our little man starting sharing our bed. Our little super starfish sleeper enjoys cuddling up to his Mummies after waking in the night.

Each night our little man starts the night in his cot and ends it in our bed. I’m not going to lie, I adore the cuddles we get, but I also miss the cuddles with my wife.

Co-sleeping is a choice we made and it was a decision which has allowed us more sleep than we’d ever have received if we didn’t allow our little man into our bed.

I know it’s not for everyone and I would only ever encourage safe sleeping situations. But it’s been a huge sleep saver for us over the last year.

Extreme Stealth Required

We’ve discussed trying to get M to sleep in his cot all night. But it just makes me feel kind of lonely for him. I know that as he grows he will have to learn to sleep longer in his cot, because our bed just isn’t big enough for the three of us. But right now, I’m happy to sleep on the edge of the bed, to make sure he gets a good nights sleep.

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  1. Cariemay Reply

    Oh that’s so familiar – Kitty starts off in her cot bed and crawls in with us in the wee small hours. Her big girl bed is arriving this month and we can’t wait, not so much for her but somewhere for at least one of us to retreat to when our bed gets filled up with little girls!

  2. Claire Reply

    Lovely post. I did the same thing with all of mine. The “sacrifice” was worth it for the sleep we got and I admit I love the cuddles They each moved out themselves when a new baby was born and disturbing THEM, so it will be interesting to see when my youngest “leaves our bed nest” as there are definitley no more babies planned.
    I think she will go and cuddle with a sibling before going to her own bed. xxx

  3. mummydaddyme Reply

    Aw what a lovely post. I did co-sleep with LL for quite a while, not all night, but she always appeared in the early hours. But now I don’t I do miss it! x

  4. HELEN Reply

    we always seem to get a visitor in the middle of the night, trouble is that he has 4yr old very long legs & likes to sleep the wrong way up on top of the duvet, pinning us down! Make the most of him whilst you still have room in that bed!

  5. Hayley Reply

    We’re co-sleepers, too. I have a love/hate relationship with it, sometimes I love the snuggles and sometimes I wish everyone would leave me alone – the littlest sometimes sleeps ON MY FACE! I think we need a bigger bed…

    (BTW, I love the photo of M & Mama. Precious!)

  6. Nicky the Expat Reply

    I used to liken trying to lay a sleeping Maddie down in her cot like that scene in Indiana Jones where he swaps the golden idol for a bag of sand ^_^

  7. Michelle Reply

    We co-sleep and love it! There is nothing better than a snuggle with our little man in bed. He does start off in his own bed but comes into ours anytime between 1am and 6am. Sometimes he even sleeps through, but when he does, I naturally wake up at 6am wondering where he is! Ha Ha! We have a little girl due in 11 weeks so not sure what is going to happen when there is two of them but I guess we’ll just go with the flow!
    Michelle x
    A Family Chatter

  8. Lauren Reply

    I think there is nothing better than waking up in the middle of the night and seeing your child and snuggling up to them. I would co-sleep forever if I could.
    I think it’s great that you both agree on co-sleeping and it isn’t just one of you who is a fan of it. x

  9. Emma wright Reply

    Megan used to come into our bed anytime from midnight and stopped by herself at about 5. Ben is now 4 and a bit and has come into our bed since he was tiny. he comes in anytime between 1am and 4am, but I have noticed that it is now about 4 nights out of 7 that he stays in his own bed and I really miss his little body next to me. when he completely stops it will be so odd as we have had a little person in bed with us for the last 9 years now! x

  10. Emily Foran Reply

    Awwww make the most of it, I didn’t and I do miss it now – it was my husband that said ‘they won’t still do it as teenagers’ and now at 9 it’s very rare I get snuggle time with my big boy. Oh and buy the biggest bed possible 😉

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