November was a testing month. With our little dude catching the mother of all colds on the same week that I was admitted to hospital and then every other person in the house catching the dreadful cold as soon as M was better, you can imagine that our house was not always the happiest house on the block.
I have worked hard to practice what I preach this year and find happiness in the darkest of days and I can admit that I have struggled. It can be hard to tell yourself that happiness is a choice and I mean happiness in it’s plainest sense. I am not talking about depression or other mental health issues as I know they aren’t a choice. I am talking about that thing that makes you smile if you notice it. I have had dark and down days, just like anyone else, I tell myself I should be the happy one for everyone else and I know how much pressure this puts on me. But sometimes things can feel suffocating and overpowering and those are the moments I am doing my best to focus on happiness in actions.
So I spent this month looking for those actions. The texts and whatsapps I received whilst in hospital really cheered me up. I was pretty miserable on painkillers and bed ridden, but I managed a smile when I felt people who cared about me reaching out.
When I returned home M turned to me after I winced in pain and asked “you alright Mama?” Which brought a smile to my face and made me feel so happy that we have a kind and thoughtful little boy.
One of my mornings was cheered up by a very kind and thoughtful friend. A lovely little gift arrived in the post which was perfect for me and made me feel lucky to have such fab and rather cool friends.
Something I love most about our little man is his stubbornness. If he thinks it’s hot enough to have an ice lolly, then he would rather an ice lolly than a cake. Though it made me really smile when he then decided to eat my cake too. (I let him eat it)
Due to illness and a busy calendar, we’d struggled to have much family time where we just enjoyed each others company. This all changed at the weekend and we took a lovely trip to our favourite woods and played, ate sausage rolls and laughed a lot.
My biggest source of happiness has to be my two favourite people. Clara and M make me smile on a daily basis and it’s their little actions which mean the most.
It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or a huge gift, sometimes a smile is all that’s needed to trigger those happy energies.
Leave us a comment below if you’ve noticed some happiness in actions this month.