You know what really bugs me?
No, not just naked men but naked men in advertising.
If an advertising campaign used a half naked woman with her breasts out, they would be seen as sexist and promoting soft porn. You can also bet that the woman involved would get verbally attacked for taking part.
So why is ok for men? I just don’t get it.
Yes I am a lesbian, and yes, I don’t find it attractive or luring, but I wouldn’t find it appealing if it was a woman, that’s my point.
I’m not a man hater in any respect. After all I am currently in the process of raising a young boy to become a man.
Body image seems so important in this day and age and it makes me so sad. Kids can’t just be kids. They’re not running around with mud all over them, in an old pair of cropped jeans and a t shirt. They all want to be little supermodels and they all look the same! I sometimes look at a group of girls, all with that messy up-style’d hair look and I think to myself, they’re the same person. What happened to being an individual?!
I’m determined to raise our son to be proud of what he looks like, to love himself no matter what. I will probably try to keep him up to date with the latest fashion trends but it’s not going to be an important part of his life. I’m going to make sure he enjoys his childhood the way children are supposed to.
I also get frustrated with the gay community when it comes to advertising as well. Just this afternoon I scrolled through my twitter timeline to see a picture of 6 or 7 half naked men to promote a new site which encourages gay men and women to join together and be themselves.
Now, I might just be going mad here but I don’t know how looking at big hunky men with six packs and bulging *ahem* bicep’s will help gay men and woman open up to each other?
If anything it makes them feel inferior.
The lesbian community also loves a stereotype and I have even emailed a well known lesbian magazine in the past, asking them to feature some real life gay women and gay families, not just what the world sees as ‘Lesbian’. They do not reflect my life or a lot of other lesbians I know. I recently wrote a post about how I was encouraged to change my appearance to fit in with the gay community and it’s wrong. These magazines are targeted at young impressionable adults and I think there needs to be a change.
I want to smash stereotypes and taboos about gay women. I hope when you came to our site for the 1st time you thought – ‘Oh, they’re family is just like mine’.
I want to see real people in magazines and in advertising. Whether it’s aimed at the gay or straight community or both. I don’t want to see half naked people because they can’t come up with an original idea. Just normal people living normal lives.
But I suppose that’s why I read more blogs than magazines over the last 2 years. There’s something to be learnt there.