Yesterday I awoke from an unbroken sleep, post Valentines, to a happy jabbering toddler and a gorgeous wife fast asleep next to me. It was a lovely feeling. I feel so grateful for the love in my life. I feel grateful that I have been born into a loving and understanding family.
I also woke up to the news that Ellen Page had publicly come out to the world at the human rights conference Time to THRIVE last night. We watched with a sense of pride filling us from head to toe. She spoke with great sincerity and declared her wiliness to help all those who are oppressed by their basic human emotion to love a person of the same sex. She stated and I quote “I’m tired of hiding and I am tried of lying by omission” these words will live with me. As I looked over at my little family, I thought of those who are not so lucky to live their life openly and freely.
When I came out, I felt the need to keep it a secret, not for very long as within a few months my friends and family knew and it started to become part of their every day lives. I kept it a secret from myself for those months. It was pure denial. How lucky am I that the only person I felt the need to hide it from was myself?
My heart aches for those living in fear, who need to hide away as a matter of life and death. In a documentary I watched the other day I learnt that the Russian government are trying to pass a law to ensure all children being raised by LGBT parents are taken into care. If anyone tried to take my boy from me I would fight until my last breath to keep him by our side and I know Kirsty would do the same. We live in a relatively liberal country where we don’t have to worry about that happening to us but that doesn’t stop me wanting to reach out to those men and women. I want to tell them they are perfect and have done nothing wrong. I hope one day this blog will reach as many people as possible because that is the point. Showing the world how similar our lives are to theirs, its just who we love that makes a slight difference.
People have said that it’s not a big deal Ellen Page has come out, I whole heartedly disagree with them. If these celebrities, who feature in the media and act as role models to hundreds of thousands of people across the world take the brave step to stand up and say “I am gay” the world moves another step closer towards equality. We need them to say it out loud.