LGBT Visibility in The Media – Times are Changing

I am incredibly proud to call myself a gay woman.

It’s who I am.

I can’t change who I am and I wouldn’t want to.

I have a gorgeous wife, who makes me laugh and smile every day and together, through our love we created our son. He is the centre of both our lives, whom we love and adore with every fibre of our being.

I am grateful to be a gay woman living in Britain. I am able to live without fear. I am able to walk down the street with my family without being ridiculed or taunted at every turn. I do not have to hide who I am.

The last few months have been incredibly emotional for Kirsty and I.

In August the Same Sex Marriage law passed through parliament, which is a huge leap forward for the LGBT community. In 2014, I will be able to officially marry my wife, giving us most of the same rights as any other ‘Straight’ married couples. We will no longer have to tick the ‘Civil Partnered’ box on documents. My wife and I cried when we heard the news. That is how important it is to us.

3 nights ago, Kirsty and I were catching up on some TV in bed, when this advert came on.

Natwest Cashback advert

I had to check with Kirsty that I had heard it correctly – ‘I love my girlfriend’. I was so proud of Natwest for this advert. Not only had they included a gay woman but they hadn’t stereotyped her. They didn’t make her a short haired, manly woman with tattoos, wearing dungarees. I was able to identify with this woman. It really choked me up.

When most people find out I am a gay woman I always hear this reply – ‘Oh, I would never have guessed/thought you were a lesbian by the way you look’ or ‘You don’t look like a lesbian’

What exactly does a lesbian look like?!

When I first came out, getting into gay clubs was a nightmare. Even if I was with a woman, they never believed me and I was turned away on occasion. So thank you Natwest for including me.

The day after I saw the Natwest advert, I jumped in my car to pick Kirsty up for lunch. It was the same as any other day. I turned on the ignition and the radio came on. This song started to play –

As I listened I started to cry. I absorbed the words. I was in shock. I was listening to BBC Radio 1, an international radio station. This song would be reaching millions of people across the world. His message is clear, be proud of who you are. It’s such a beautiful song. As I write this I’m listening to it and every time I listen I want to cry happy tears. I am starting to feel confident that we can raise our son in an accepting world.

We didn’t just start My Two Mums to document our son’s life, we started it to raise awareness for the LGBT community. We hope we are reaching out to people in a positive way. LGBT rights are finally getting the deserved attention in the media now, which we are so proud to be apart of. We would like to say a HUGE thank you to those of you that help us spread the word. We started our journey with the help of Mamas and Papas in the Urbo Campaign, which we were delighted to be apart of.

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Other campaigns, such as ‘It Gets Better’ which you can find on YouTube, are paving the way to LGBT equality, which we fully support. If you have a spare 10 minutes, please go check it out.

Whoever you are, LGBT, or Straight, be proud of who you are.

Do you feel LGBT visibility in the media should increase?

‘I can’t change, even if I tried, even if I wanted to. My love, my love, she keeps me warm, she keeps me warm, she keeps me warm’ – Macklemore and Ryan Lewis ft Mary Lambert.


This Post Has 23 Comments

  1. Victoria Welton Reply

    Well done ladies. You thoroughly deserve all the praise and support you get. You write a wonderful blog and I am so pleased for you that things have changed to enable you two to marry each other. Wishing you every happiness. That poster is fabulous for Mamas and Papas 🙂

  2. Charlotte Taylor Reply

    This was so brilliant Clara. I know I can’t relate, but why should I have to? Why should it be any different? Are men and women really that different, or is it all just stereotype. Why can’t we just be human and forget the rest. That song is amazing. And you two, and your gorgeous son, you are amazing too. Whatever William wants to do, whoever he loves, as long as he knows I love him and he loves me, I couldn’t be a happier or prouder mum. xxx

  3. Mrs TeePot Reply

    That’s so wonderful. What a great advert from Natwest too, it certainly shows that society is changing, becoming more accepting.
    You are doing a wonderful thing by blogging your life too, I love your blog and really think that it is helping to fight the stereotypes.

  4. vicki-elliebearbabi Reply

    Beautiful post, so honest and open! Your blog is helping so many people by raising awareness i’m sure your story is inspiring others actually i know it is!! Totally fab 🙂

  5. Lauren Reply

    Wow. Wow, and simply wow.
    The advert, the song and the words you’ve written. So amazing.
    I think you’d done a fantastic job at promoting same sex relationships and same sex parenting.
    I’m so glad I came across your blog and that I got the chance to meet you both this year and become real friends. You are both amazing. Really amazing xx

  6. Tinuke Reply

    I love the advert and that song! I think it is great that LGBT families and rights are now being showcased more in mainstream TV and media in general and I only hope it becomes more and more commonplace as the years go by.

  7. mummydaddyme Reply

    I ditto what everyone else has said, I am so glad I can call you and Kirsty friends. This is a beautiful post Clara and I am crying as I write this. The advert is great, as is the song.
    I want more than anything for our babies can grow up in a world where they are accepted for whatever or however they choose to be.
    You should both be so proud of what you have achieved on this blog, and in the media, for same sex parents. But not only that, you both are incredibly kind and supportive of others too.
    I think you both absolutely rock and I am your biggest supporter and I just want you to know that. 😉 soppiness over! X

  8. Debbie Reply

    A fantastic post.
    I dearly hope my children will grow up in a world which wonders why people ever had to write this down.
    That life is just that to be lived.
    I am so thankful for your posts to keep everyone moving towards… well, living as being able to celebrate life would be fine.
    Thank you both.

  9. Jayne @ Mum's the Word Reply

    My Husband and I saw the advert too and were both seriously impressed with NatWest. We’ve spent the last five years raising our daughter with complete openness and she knows that a man can love a man and a woman can love a woman, in the same way that her Dad and I love each other. Because, at the end of the day, that’s what its about…LOVE; I’m so glad that we’re moving towards a society where my daughter can love whomever she pleases without feeling that she’ll have to hide it or be ashamed for some reason.

    Great post, and much love from our little family to yours.

  10. Hayley Reply

    This was great, Clara and I’ll join the “I’m so proud of you girls” crew. I really hope that through this blog and the media that people see your family is actually no different to their own.

  11. Stephs Two Girls Reply

    Yay to the wedding! Beautifully written, we can feel the emotion here, understandably. I am happy that we are growing up in a world where acceptance of everything ‘different’ is growing and we just need to keep those positive media images coming out, so thanks for being a big part of that. We need to stay on top of keeping the younger generation ‘accepting’ and aware. Hope I can meet you at the MADS!

  12. Bex @ The Mummy Adventure Reply

    Fantastic post and it is great to see it becoming a normal thing to see. You guys are just amazing x

  13. Innocent Charms Chats Reply

    Beautiful post Clara – my brother as a gay man never felt himself living where we grew up, he moved to London and started to “live” his life, this still saddens me to this day, that he felt he had to hide who he was, most of my closest friends are gay, one is a bouncer, one is a lorry driver and only one is a streotypical gay man, it angers me that people feel they have to fit this sterotype, the amount of people who make comments on how I look. Pathetic.
    Well done Natwest for making a lovely lady smile – this makes me smile xx

  14. Sian @ QuiteFranklySheSaid Reply

    I have seen the Natwest advert before but all I thought was “oh that’s clever how they’ve used twins”, I just don’t tend to notice people’s sexuality iykwim. Watching it again now and I can see what a positive thing Natwest have done xx

  15. Lucy Reply

    I read this the other day but couldn’t comment and was determined to come back and do so. I saw that advert the other day and I have to say I stopped fiddling on my phone as soon as I heard that line “I love my girlfriend” and I watched the rest of the advert properly. It finished and I just thought how incredibly forward thinking it was of Natwest. I thought it was brilliant and so sensitively done, as you say; no stereotyping, just a normal relationship. A brilliant sign of the times I think. x

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