I am incredibly proud to call myself a gay woman.
It’s who I am.
I can’t change who I am and I wouldn’t want to.
I have a gorgeous wife, who makes me laugh and smile every day and together, through our love we created our son. He is the centre of both our lives, whom we love and adore with every fibre of our being.
I am grateful to be a gay woman living in Britain. I am able to live without fear. I am able to walk down the street with my family without being ridiculed or taunted at every turn. I do not have to hide who I am.
The last few months have been incredibly emotional for Kirsty and I.
In August the Same Sex Marriage law passed through parliament, which is a huge leap forward for the LGBT community. In 2014, I will be able to officially marry my wife, giving us most of the same rights as any other ‘Straight’ married couples. We will no longer have to tick the ‘Civil Partnered’ box on documents. My wife and I cried when we heard the news. That is how important it is to us.
3 nights ago, Kirsty and I were catching up on some TV in bed, when this advert came on.
Natwest Cashback advert
I had to check with Kirsty that I had heard it correctly – ‘I love my girlfriend’. I was so proud of Natwest for this advert. Not only had they included a gay woman but they hadn’t stereotyped her. They didn’t make her a short haired, manly woman with tattoos, wearing dungarees. I was able to identify with this woman. It really choked me up.
When most people find out I am a gay woman I always hear this reply – ‘Oh, I would never have guessed/thought you were a lesbian by the way you look’ or ‘You don’t look like a lesbian’
What exactly does a lesbian look like?!
When I first came out, getting into gay clubs was a nightmare. Even if I was with a woman, they never believed me and I was turned away on occasion. So thank you Natwest for including me.
The day after I saw the Natwest advert, I jumped in my car to pick Kirsty up for lunch. It was the same as any other day. I turned on the ignition and the radio came on. This song started to play –
As I listened I started to cry. I absorbed the words. I was in shock. I was listening to BBC Radio 1, an international radio station. This song would be reaching millions of people across the world. His message is clear, be proud of who you are. It’s such a beautiful song. As I write this I’m listening to it and every time I listen I want to cry happy tears. I am starting to feel confident that we can raise our son in an accepting world.
We didn’t just start My Two Mums to document our son’s life, we started it to raise awareness for the LGBT community. We hope we are reaching out to people in a positive way. LGBT rights are finally getting the deserved attention in the media now, which we are so proud to be apart of. We would like to say a HUGE thank you to those of you that help us spread the word. We started our journey with the help of Mamas and Papas in the Urbo Campaign, which we were delighted to be apart of.
Other campaigns, such as ‘It Gets Better’ which you can find on YouTube, are paving the way to LGBT equality, which we fully support. If you have a spare 10 minutes, please go check it out.
Whoever you are, LGBT, or Straight, be proud of who you are.
Do you feel LGBT visibility in the media should increase?
‘I can’t change, even if I tried, even if I wanted to. My love, my love, she keeps me warm, she keeps me warm, she keeps me warm’ – Macklemore and Ryan Lewis ft Mary Lambert.