Before we even became parents I used to think about having conversations with our mini human creation and smiled at the thought of them declaring their feelings independently. Now that our little dude is 2 and a half those moments have arrived.
Each day M is learning new words and surprising us with really long sentences and conversation. But my all time favourite sentence he has ever spoken has to be “I love you Mummy”. Each time he shares this heart fluttering statement he is usually wrapped in C’s arms. He looks up at her with his big brown eyes and my heart melts. I love watching their relationship grow. They are so similar yet share such a close bond. I see the potential for personality clashes in the teenage years, but there is no denying, these two are the best of buds.
I hear my fair share of I love you as well. I’m saying I love you, but he actually pronounces it “uv you”. I’m usually included in his long list of things he “Uvs”, thankfully I appear before his trucks and diggers. But it’s quite fair to say that our little man is a Mummy’s boy. They share a bond that differs from the bond I have with M and I’m totally happy with it.
My relationship with M has quite often been compared to the way a dad may have a relationship with their son. I’ve been questioned lots when people see how he requests Mummy. “So you’re like the dad”, “you didn’t carry him for 9 months, so it’s understandable” “he was with Clara for 2 years before she went back to work”. If it works for people to figure things out this way, then I’m all for questions. I’m not like the dad, I’m his Mama, no I didn’t carry him, yes Clara had extra time with M, but I work family friendly hours and got plenty of time with him.
But you know what, kids grow up knowing who they want in which situation. When M is sick or sad or he’s hurt himself, he will always ask for Mummy and I’m totally ok with that. She does Mummy soothing cuddles far better than I ever good. But when M wants to jump really high off the bed or splash dinosaurs in the bath, it’s Mama all the way!
I love that we bring different things to our family makeup. Clara is more maternal and soothing than me and I’m like a big kid (with a serious side too). It works for us and that’s all that matters. Especially now we know our little man really uvs us.