Tomorrow Clara and I will have been married 6 years. For the last month my Timehop has been excitedly reminding me of all the prep running up to our wedding and sharing with me the what we were up to before our anniversary. I am confident in saying that this anniversary is one I have been looking forward to most, because it feels like one of our happiest.
We’ve not found marriage as smooth as some. We haven’t been living a fairy-tale of blissful days smiling and gazing lovingly at each other. We’ve been through a lot in the last 6 years. With adding a beautiful addition to our family, moving house almost 6 times, losing loved ones, changing jobs, studying for new careers and general life, we have found things tough. We’ve had great moments and we’ve had awful moments. We’ve been there for each other and also felt like we were galaxies apart. As recent as a couple of months ago we discussed if we could continue to make things work or if we should go our separate ways whilst we could still tolerate each other.
Someone close to me once said that marriage is a marathon and not a sprint and for us this is true. We had no idea what to expect as we’d never been married before and had to learn everything about being married at the same time as becoming used to each other as wife, mother and friend.
Our first dance at our wedding was Fyfe Dangerfield – She’s Always A Woman. We both fell in love with the song when we heard it and still get choked up listening to it. When we listen to the lyrics it is us through and through.
She’s always a woman is about loving someone’s quirks and flaws and accepting they’ll never change.
She can kill with a smile
She can wound with her eyes
Clara has the most beautiful eyes, I mean have you seen them? She knows that with a smile and a look she is my everything.
She can ask for the truth
But she’ll never believe
One of my downfalls is trust. It’s something I have worked on over the years, but I know I will never change. Thanks to some terrible previous friendships and relationships I will always be unsure of the complete truth.
Ooooh and she never gives out
And she never gives in
She just changes her mind
Clara and I are both stubborn when we make up our minds. We disagree on many things, but value that we each have our own opinion. It’s been the source of many arguments over the years, but it’s nice to know we both have our own strong minds.
But she’ll bring out the best
And the worst you can be
She see’s me at my best and she see’s me at my worst.
But she’s always a woman to me
At the end of the day she is the woman I love more than anything, she is my soulmate and someone I want to spend my life with.
We are still learning so much about life together. A big thing we came to accept is we can’t change the person we love, we can only make changes to ourselves. Life can be one big straight happy road, but to be honest I’ve always found more adventure off the beaten track.