My soulmate is now my wife

The first family member I came out to was my mum. It all began with a conversation with about marriage as my sister was preparing to walk down the ailse. I was expressing how much I disliked marriage and my mum started to question why. It was then I told her that I was gay and wasn’t allowed to marry, which really upset me. Flash forward many years and the law has changed enough to allow me to marry my soulmate as long as it’s a civil partnership (so I wasn’t technically married).


I found someone I loved so much, that I wanted to marry her. But a Civil Partnership had to do. We weren’t able to refer to each other as wife, legally and we had to select Civil partnership in the drop down menus on official forms. Yes we were happy, we are in love and were happy we got to share our day with so many family members and friends. But things were going to get better.

mummy and monkey

This year same sex marriage was legalised and C and I were able to convert our civil partnership to a marriage. The great news was on converting, our marriage was back dated. So we can say we have officially been married for 4 years. We had a really quiet little conversion on the 20th December and will be planning a big celebration and party in October 2015 for our 5th Wedding anniversary.

mama and monkey

Our conversion took place in the same room by the same lady who registered M’s birth, which made the moment even more special. Having M present was exciting too. When he is old enough to understand, we will enjoy telling him about the day we got married with him in the room.

family shot


It feels amazing to be able to officially call C my wife. I’d have loved her as long as my life path takes me, even if I’d never have been able to marry her. But being able to marry my soulmate has made me eternally happy.

This Post Has 13 Comments

  1. Amy Reply

    So so happy for you guys! How completely wonderful you all look great and so in love, all three of you 🙂 what a momentous day in your life journey together. Xx

  2. Donna Wishart Reply

    Such a great moment, thank you for sharing it with us! It must feel amazing for you x

  3. Innocent Charms Chats Reply

    This post!!! It makes me so happy. I am so pleased we finally have equality for you.
    I am so pleased you get to be wife and wife according to the man.
    Congrats on 4yrs. Can’t wait for the 5th xx

  4. Lauren - Scrapbook Blog Reply

    Awesome news! I’m glad you are married now, and rightly so. Also amazing that it’s backdated too, not that two people of the same sex shouldn’t have been able to be married in the first place but there we go.
    Have fun planning the big bash next year!

  5. mummydaddyme Reply

    Congratulations guys and I can imagine how much it means to you to be able to say you have been married officially for 4 years. Plus as I said to you the 20th December is a great anniversary date- we have been married 5 years on the 20th! So pleased for you all, you are truly the most lovely little family and the best parents. xx

  6. Potty Mouthed Mum Reply

    So wonderful, massive congratulations and how amazing this must feel to finally be married. Gorgeous pictures xx

  7. Sally Reply

    I’ve been offline so I missed a lot of this but you both (well, all of you) look gorgeous – many congratulations and all the best for 2015.

  8. Goblin Child Reply

    Congratulations, and what a beautiful post! I’m so happy for the three of you.

  9. Clare Mansell Reply

    I love the fact that it gets back-dated! Congratulations on your marriage and your 4th wedding anniversary (how crazy is that?)

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