The first family member I came out to was my mum. It all began with a conversation with about marriage as my sister was preparing to walk down the ailse. I was expressing how much I disliked marriage and my mum started to question why. It was then I told her that I was gay and wasn’t allowed to marry, which really upset me. Flash forward many years and the law has changed enough to allow me to marry my soulmate as long as it’s a civil partnership (so I wasn’t technically married).
I found someone I loved so much, that I wanted to marry her. But a Civil Partnership had to do. We weren’t able to refer to each other as wife, legally and we had to select Civil partnership in the drop down menus on official forms. Yes we were happy, we are in love and were happy we got to share our day with so many family members and friends. But things were going to get better.
This year same sex marriage was legalised and C and I were able to convert our civil partnership to a marriage. The great news was on converting, our marriage was back dated. So we can say we have officially been married for 4 years. We had a really quiet little conversion on the 20th December and will be planning a big celebration and party in October 2015 for our 5th Wedding anniversary.
Our conversion took place in the same room by the same lady who registered M’s birth, which made the moment even more special. Having M present was exciting too. When he is old enough to understand, we will enjoy telling him about the day we got married with him in the room.
It feels amazing to be able to officially call C my wife. I’d have loved her as long as my life path takes me, even if I’d never have been able to marry her. But being able to marry my soulmate has made me eternally happy.