Since starting our family expanding journey, one of the most frequent questions we asked ourselves was what shall we refer to ourselves as.
In most heterosexual parenting relationships the question is not often posed. Yet there are many variations you can refer to your parents as. A few examples are mum, mummy, mother, dad, daddy, pops, papa.
The majority of heterosexual couples in the UK seem to plump for mummy n daddy which naturally progresses to mum and dad, once the child is old enough to be embarrassed by using the terms they used when they were small. Some children never feel that embarrassment and are quite happy to stick with mummy n daddy.
We on the other hand decided we didn’t want the confusion of both being referred to as mummy. I am sure once baby is here we would soon recognise which of us they were requesting if we did decide to both be mummy. But it’s not for us.
Clara has decided she will be referred to as mummy and I shall be mama. Mummy, to me always feels more feminine and maternal and this is why it wouldn’t suit me. Those who know me well know I am more on the cusp of paternal feelings. Which is why I feel mama is right. It just sort of fits me. I’m pretty sure our baby will make up its own names once it’s communicating, but until then we are mummy and mama.
Did you ever consider other parental names instead of mummy and daddy?