We’ve never really written about our very first attempt at starting a family as we felt it was a personal experience and I think we were left feeling a little sad it wasn’t successful. But we were blessed with a little man via other means and feel that talking about our IUI experience in Denmark could help another couple kick start their journey towards a family.
So firstly what is IUI and why did we choose it?
IUI stands for Intrauterine insemination and involves a procedure to separate fast moving sperm from slower or non-moving sperm. This is completed in a laboratory and prepared within a small flexible tube called a catheter, which is then inserted into your womb via your cervix. This procedure takes place close to the time of ovulation. We chose IUI as we were hoping that it would give us the best chance of starting a family. We spent many months researching which path to take and decided IUI took away the fear of “wasting the goods”. We knew that only the good sperm would be used and would be helped on it’s journey to fertlising an egg.
We found out about a insemination clinic in Denmark, after reading an advert in Diva magazine (a mag for women who like women). The laws on anonymity of donors in the UK had recently changed, yet Denmark still allowed the use of an anonymous donor. We had decided on an anonymous donor as we felt that there would be no future complications if contact wished to be made. Denmark is also only a short flight and offered us the opportunity for a mini break in a county we’d never visited before.
How much did it cost?
This is a question we get asked quite a bit and to be honest you can’t really put a set price on this one. We paid for an initial consultation, donor sperm, insemination, accommodation and flights. We also paid for food and drink, which isn’t cheap in Denmark and had some spending money for the day we spent there. It is probably one of the most expensive things we have paid for, up until we purchased our car last year. Whenever we are asked for advice on starting a family we always suggest researching all paths you can afford. If you wish to go down the clinic route, there will be fees and it is not always successful.
How was the experience?
Well aside from delayed flights, frantic taxi rides and the fear of missing our allotted insemination slot. It was a fab little trip. Although our IUI was unsuccessful, the memory of starting our journey in Denmark will always be with us. The clinic was fantastic. We felt really well looked after and they helped put our minds at rest when we feared we wouldn’t make our appointment. The actual insemination was over quite quickly, which allowed us to spend the evening relaxing. The next day we explored the town, a local art exhibition and sampled several plates of nachos.
Would we travel to Denmark for IUI again?
We’ve discussed this and decided we wouldn’t travel to Denmark for IUI again. This is not due to the experience we had, as we really loved Denmark and would revisit for a holiday. But we’ve researched paths available to us in the UK and feel that taking the stress of travel out of the equation, could be beneficial to conception.
If you are looking to start a family and are considering IUI in Denmark as an option then all we can suggest is do your research. Can you afford it? Will the travel cause unnecessary stress? Are there other options? etc. We are strong believers in finding a insemination solution that works for you, as it is a personal experience.
The following images were taken over the two days we were in Denmark.
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